What is Your Dream? November 6. 2007
I'm doing a lot of ruminating lately. As you could probably tell, from the kind of posts that you are reading in my blog lately. Maybe I'm psyching myself. Maybe I'm having a midlife crisis of sorts.
Or maybe, after such a long time of procrastinating, I am finally beginning to ask serious questions.
I remember, around the same time last year, a reporter from a local newspaper came to interview me at work. He was supposed to write an article which would feature some of the foreigners here in Tsukuba, something on international relations in our community.
He asked me the usual questions - why did I come to Japan, when did I start work, my research, family background, etc., etc.
And then out of the blue, he asked: "Yume wa nan desu ka?" Translated, it means, "What is your dream?"
It caught me by surprise. I had mentally prepared for all the questions I could think of, except for that one question that he popped without warning.
I fumbled for an answer. The reporter patiently waited for my reply.
In my haste, I came up with the first thing that I could think of. I said, "Yuumei na kenkyuusha ni naru koto." To be a famous researcher.
Thankfully, he didn't pursue it any further. If he had pressed me, I would probably say, "To win the Nobel prize" or something like that. Just to bolster my first answer.
But that first answer just didn't ring true. Truth is, it just felt hollow. I wasn't sure that that was my dream. It wasn't my lifelong dream.
The article never saw print, unfortunately (or fortunately?). But it didn't matter, really. Really. I just wondered what he was supposed to do with all those pictures he took of me, haha. 
But that simple incident made me ruminate for days on end. What is my dream? Casually I asked Baggy the same question. He couldn't give me a straight answer. I'm sure he has a dream, but he wouldn't tell me unless I coerced him or something.
I dream, I test my dreams against my beliefs, I dare to take risks, and I execute my vision to make those dreams come true. - Walt Disney
As a child, I had dreams. I dreamed that someday we'd get out of our relative's house and move on to a house of our own. I dreamed that someday we wouldn't be looked down upon because of our financial status. I dreamed that someday we wouldn't have to borrow or get into debt anymore. You know, simple things. Those were my dreams, because they were so out of our reach then. And they weren't just dreams for myself, but for our whole family.
Things have changed over the years. Up to his last breath, my Dad kept reassuring me that I have fulfilled our dreams, and his dreams for our family.
So I didn't really dream that someday I'd become a famous scientist like Einstein or Marie Curie. My dreams were way much simpler and very much rooted in our reality.
I realized that because those childhood dreams have now been fulfilled, I have not really thought of pursuing new ones. What is the next "unreachable" thing that I should strive for?
Financial independence? Not having to work for money anymore, but still be able to enjoy and live life in comfort?
Make a groundbreaking scientific discovery? Become famous?
Become a philantropist? Devote the rest of my life to a worthy cause?
Honestly, I could not decide. You would think that by now I would be able to figure that out for myself. But I guess, our dreams are closely connected to our realities. Sure we can dream of big things, those which are so disconnected from our present realities, but we could end up frustrated in the end if they do not get fulfilled.
But as they say, we only have one life to live.
The child has finally grown up and she is ready to dream BIG now.
Now, you cannot answer the question. Maybe you are fulfilled? Or half fulfilled? You are already a scientist, wife, mother. Maybe you can't ask for anything more than to be better as all three.
All best whatever you still hope for.
Yes, I think our dreams change as we grow older. But as they say, the "grand essentials of life are - something to do, something to love and something to hope for" As long as one of these essentials isn't missing, we should be able to wake up in the morning feeling like life is worth living
I mean the previous ones are good ones too but for me, it's more enjoyable to read "personal" entries...I know you know what I mean I can relate with your dreams when you were still a child because those were my dreams too. You know, sana maayos na yung bahay namin para di naman nakakahiya kung pupunta yung mga friends ko doon. Sana pag kelangan ng pera hindi na kelangan mangutang...etc etc etc. Life back then was really hard for the family especially for my parents.
Now, things are doing better. Somehow wala na kami sa ganung kalagayan. Somehow yung dream ko noong bata pa ako na achieve naman namin but I got new sets of dreams for myself now but funnily enough if you ask me what is it, I don't think I can give you a straight answer too..maybe because there's so many.
Anyway they say it's good to dream but the important thing is to make those dreams come true.
i could pinch your cheeks in that picture. cute dimples!
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good day!To be all three at the same time - now that's not a dream anymore, but a real-life challenge! Easier said than done.
Thanks for sharing those words of wisdom. Something to do, something to love, and something to hope for - truly these are the elements that make our life worth living!
I think we both had parents who motivated us to strive and make our lives better through education, hard and honest work. But there also comes a time when we should strive to fulfill our own personal dreams, not those given to us by our parents, di ba?
Let's chase those dreams, Verns!
Indeed, what's wrong with sitting back and enjoying the fruits of one's labors instead of continuously sweating it out there in the field (of dreams, hehe)?
Sabi ng Mom ko, marami nanggigigil sa akin nong baby pa ako, hehe.
I'm happy to know that this post made you reflect.
